Bullying

So I’ve just come back from watching my lovely daughter’s play which was all about bullying and I’ve just discovered that it’s anti-bullying week, cue my next blog…

Now, there are so many reasons why I decided to train to be a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist/Psychotherapist. There’s the fact that I’ve seen first hand just how much it can help, the fact that I wanted to help others realise their true potential, I knew just how rewarding it would be (and it really is…!). Since before I started training I knew that I wanted to work with children. As someone who struggled with Anxiety as a child I can truly appreciate just how awful it is, the feeling of being out of control and not really knowing what is going on, just feeling fear, a scared vulnerable child!! I know that I want to help those children out Bullying

there that are struggling to deal with their emotions.

Now I digress, but bear with me… There was a famous Philosopher, John Locke (29 August 1632 -28 October 1704) who, in an Essay he wrote Concerning Human Understanding, restated that the human mind at birth is a complete, but receptive, blank slate. He referred to the term tabula rasa (which is Latin for ‘scraped tablet’ i.e., ‘clean slate’). Now I believe he was absolutely right – it makes sense… I’m not saying that any parent who has a child that is acting up and getting into trouble or suffering from anxiety has done anything wrong… As a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist I have come to learn about the different parts of the brain. I’ve learned that when we are operating from our Left Pre-Frontal Cortex (our Intellectual brain) then we are logical, we can cope with life, we’re happy and we have all the lovely neurotransmitters such as Serotonin being released. We feel confident and happy!  However, there’s another part of the brain that is the most Primitive part of the brain, this part contains our Amygdala, Hippocampus and Hypothalamus. This part of the brain is very negative! It’s constantly looking out for danger. Our negative thoughts turn to anxiety and as the anxiety builds we become stuck in our primitive brain and continue to feel negative and anxious! We become stuck in a vicious circle.

We are born with two fears; Falling and Noise! Any other fears that developed are in effect, ‘learned’. It’s a built in mechanism that is there for your self preservation and we learn many along the way. Different experiences in life create different fears and anxiety. I digress again, (but it’s going somewhere and I’ll wrap it up nicely)… In the primitive brain; when we come across fear and danger; we go into fight/flight/freeze mode! Our body reacts by releasing the chemicals it needs to the parts of the body that need it to respond by, fighting, running or freezing!! This reaction is great when we run into danger, but it’s not so good when we’re operating from that part of the brain because we’ve become stuck in our vicious circle of negativity and anxiety. So in this case, it manifests itself into anxiety, anger or depression!!

So, back to bullying… Bullying is an act of aggression and anger. So why is it that a child suffering from anxiety would be treated differently to a child suffering from anger issues? Now let me be clear that I’m not condoning bullying or justifying it in anyway!! Bullying is awful and it shouldn’t happen, but my point is that it’s all coming from the same part of the brain… Whether the child is suffering from Anxiety or Anger Issues, the child needs help!!

bright futureIf you have a child that is struggling and would like to discuss Hypnotherapy as a way to help them then please get in touch. Children respond so well to Hypnotherapy and helping them to deal with it now while they’re still young can mean an amazingly bright future for them!